Desperate Man Takes Toxic Woman On Date, Ditches Her At Restaurant When She Refuses To Split The Bill

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Nov 10, 2021 12:30 PM EST

Ah, young love. Isn't it the greatest? Not when there are two toxic parties involved. In today's "Am I The A$$hole?" thread, OP complained about a second date that he went on because he was desperate. Because she sucked on the first date, he wasn't going to ask her out again. He ultimately decided to ask her out just in case he couldn't find anyone better. Yuck. When the bill came, he asked for two checks because he didn't want to pay for someone who knew he wasn't going out with again. She said she forgot her wallet, so he paid his share and left the restaurant. She texted him later claiming she'd be stranded 

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  • 01
    Font - r/AmItheAsshole Posted by u/datingthrowwayay 11 hours ago 3 2 3 3 G AITA for leaving a girl(21) I(21) was on a date with after she forgot her wallet? So I don't think I did a damn thing wrong but my friends do and suggested I post her. Recently I went on a second date with this girl I've been talking to for a little bit. We met at a bar and got drinks on
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    I don't get how she forgot her wallet. Mine is always one me. 

  • 02
    Human body - our first date and it didn't go great. In hindsight, I should've just stopped speaking to her then, but my self esteem is pretty much nonexistent and I'm very desperate so I asked her out again.
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    Desperation is a bad reason to ask someone on another date. This ain't it, kid. 

  • 03
    Font - Our date went awful. She was 20 minutes late, she was rude to me(which wasn't new), rude to waitstaff(also not new), she complained about everything from the venue, to the food, to my outfit and cologne.
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  • 04
    Font - When the bill came I decided I probably shouldn't ask her out again unless I really can't find someone, so when the waitress came and asked about the checks, I firmly said 2 checks. The girl then said, "You really know how to make a girl feel special. Do you not bring money on dates?" I told her I was low on cash I couldn't afford both of ours. She then said, "Well I didn't bring my wallet. What are you going to do?" We started bickering and they waitress said she'd come back later.
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  • 05
    Font - During the bickering I told her that I had the money to pay, but she has been so unpleasant and rude that I don't want to see her again and I don't think I should pay for her meal. She got even madder. After 10 more minutes of arguing I decided I was done. I told her I'd go talk to the waitress near the cash register and see if something could be done. I got up walked to the register, explained the situation, and she let me pay and leave.
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  • 06
    Font - When I got to my dorm, I got a slew of nasty texts and basically she was stuck there until her friend could get off of work and bring her wallet to her which would be hours. I blocked her for now. As I said my friends think I'm an asshole. ΑΙΤΑ?
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    Font - mypreciousssssssss · 11h Asshole Enthusiast [6] She didn't "forget" her wallet. She left it at home to force you to pay. NTA
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    Font - genomerain · 9h "When the bill came I decided I probably shouldn't ask her out again unless I really can't find someone" Dude, you really need to learn how to be comfortable being single. There's nothing wrong with wanting to find a meaningful relationship, and I hope you find a good one eventually, but the "unless I really can't find someone" isn't a great attitude. Being single is still better than forcing yourself to be with someone you don't actually like.
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    Font - Annorax10 · 11h Asshole Enthusiast [6] NTA she has no interest in you at all, she's literally just there for free food. You paid for yours, you never said you'd pay for hers. If she gets arrested for dine & dashing, that's her problem.
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    Font - Icy_Push3877· 10h ESH I certainly wouldn't want to be on a date with either if you, from what you've written here
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    Font - burntoutgrace710 · 8h ESH. Maybe it's time we as a society get more comfortable with clarifying payment plans before outings and dates. Although, from what it sounds like, your intention was to pay for her bill, so talking about it beforehand just to renege it once you found her unpleasant would have made you an asshole anyways.
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    Font - Mountain_Plastic6196 · 11h Partassipant [1] the title had me thinking YTA, but it sounds like she didn't genuinely forget. she sounds like an entitled chore of a lady that was probably looking for free drinks. bet she won't forget again! good for you, i probably wouldn't have had the guts to do it. final verdict, NTA.
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    Human body - mrs_krokodile · 8h ESH- if you didn't like her, then you shouldn't have asked her out. She may have been rude but your attitude sucks too. You seriously come across as a "nice guy".
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    Font - CrochetBeth · 9h ESH. You had an awful date, so you refused to pay and literally left your date in the restaurant with no money. That was awful. She sucks because she brought no money. And because all she did was complain and act rudely to the staff.
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    Font - Echo10000 · 8h I think YTA. When I'm asked out I expect them to pay. When I do the asking, I pay. You make it sound like she had to earn her dinner in some way. Next time just admit you had bad judgment, pay the bill and stop asking jerks to go out.
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